Bobby on Mind Grow Radio

Something remarkable is happening to me in 2011. After several years of studying and applying the Law of Attraction to my life, I think I’m finally beginning to get the hang of it. I started the new year thinking I was going to have an uphill climb. Right off the bat I got slammed with jury duty. My Facebook friends can attest that I did not enjoy this experience much; nor did I appreciate having to go there when I had so much to attend to at home and work.

But I decided to make the best of it. I used the experience as an opportunity to entertain people on Facebook. But more importantly, I decided to just give up on trying to control my life and business everyday. I had no choice. I had to go. I just sat there all day. And I had no choice when they told us to come back the next day. Ugh.

I could have gone through this experience in a sour mood. But I literally tried to just let go of all control. I asked myself if perhaps this was an opportunity to clear my mind of all the business clutter I had been mired in throughout 2010. Or perhaps this could be seen as a day or two of thinking about nothing, or at least something else.

I learned what is quite likely the greatest lesson I have ever learned in life.

Let go of control. Let go of control. Let go of control. I couldn’t make up what happened that day when I finally let go of control over my life if I wanted to.

You see, I am a bit of a control freak. Years into my business and I still don’t have a real employee because no one can do what I do as well as me. Or so I tell myself. I spend every waking moment planning and formulating and thinking and postulating and implementing my business strategies. I am consumed by them. They were literally eating me alive.

Worse, I was so focused on making things happen, I forgot that I am supposed to create with my mind, and simply allow things to happen.

Well, while sitting in jury duty (I still do not like jury duty, by the way), just listening to other people talking, I gave up all that control long enough to allow some things to happen. And it was eye opening.

First, I got an amazing text that set me on a new course in my personal life. I didn’t know the full significance of this text when I got it, but I felt it. I knew the moment it arrived it was big. Turns out I was right. I wish I could share the full details of this event, but it’s too personal. Leaving it out of the story just felt wrong. Suffice it to say, it was a significant step in a relationship I was looking to build for some time. It arrived the day I gave up control.

When I got home from jury duty, I got a phone call from my Planet Bonehead partner Patti Romano informing me we had been awarded a grant from Cummins International to launch a pilot program using PBh materials in schools throughout the Charleston, SC area. This was a huge victory for us, one we had been waiting months to hear about. It arrived the day I gave up control.

Later that evening I was asked to sit on a phone call with a Hollywood movie producer. He is making a sequel to his movie, The Journey. It’s a Law of Attraction movie with various teachers sharing their lessons and insights into life. He asked me to be in the movie. This was an opportunity to get myself and my philosophies in front of a huge national audience. It was an opportunity I had been preparing for for years. It arrived the day I gave up control.

I was invited into the movie project originally by my friend Stephanie Kathan, whom I met on Facebook. We became Facebook “friends” and then actual friends through our interactions and conversations. She told me later that evening that she had stored me away as one of her “gems,” people she knew she needed to work with in the future but did not yet know how. She was asked to cast the teachers for this movie, and suddenly she knew why she had kept myself and others as her gems. She then asked me to be her first guest of the new year on her radio show, coincidentally also called The Journey. This was yet another opportunity to speak to a new, larger audience. It arrived on the day I gave up control.

I believe life is a journey, not a destination.

I believe that our souls are along for the ride with us every step of the way. The soul is the guide, always whispering what next steps to take. When we seize control and try to steer the way all by ourselves, we often find ourselves lost, or adrift, or going right off a cliff. Seizing control of our everyday lives and constantly trying to control people and events around us is frustrating, tiring, and a complete waste of time.

When we give up control and just listen to our soul, we know exactly what to do one step at a time. It is always easier. It is always happier. It is always right.

I have decided to continue practicing giving up control. It still is not easy for me. Hopefully I won’t have to wait 6 years until I am next up for jury duty to give up control again.